Freedom out of Failure
I’ve made some very big mistakes. I have tried so many things that didn’t work.
In my last blog post I wrote about the vision for the HOME tech. I still believe that we will have a fancy app, and I know it will be amazing when it happens. But I also know that I tried to roll out that piece of the project much too soon and ultimately failed.
I did not fully understand what I was getting myself into…
Whether it is a project, or a relationship with a person, or a habit, or an addiction, I have had to learn some very tough lessons from some very big mistakes.
But somewhere along the line I learned to do two things really well:
Let Go & Move On
Our tendency to hold onto things that we know are not working or aren’t good for us is one of the greatest personal battles that we all must face. It’s not uncommon for people to spend years in unhappy relationships or dead end jobs.
For me, it was a fear of failure and a lack of the self empowerment to take control of my life and fulfill my potential. One of my greatest lessons was this:
When you’ve failed big enough and so many times that you no longer fear failure, you gain the freedom to make your life whatever you want it to be.
For years, I struggled with addiction and self-sabotage. I could see it happening. But there was no huge traumatic event that led me to change my behavior.
And then… CATASTROPHE! Suffice it to say my life would never be the same.
Once I was forced to let go and move on, I found a new life… a new freedom that I had never experienced. By embracing failure and letting it teach me instead of judging it as something to be ashamed of, I was empowered to take on bigger goals. I was able to take control of my life in ways I never knew were possible. Here’s a quick example as it relates to HOME:
It was March of 2017, and I thought I had found the perfect location for the organization to exist. It was a space that was already occupied by a good friend, and there was already a cool underground music scene building there.
There was vacancy in some office space above the venue, and we had already talked to the leasing agent. He was on board. I even went and got a small business loan to pay the lease and work on improvements. We were SO EXCITED, just waiting to hear back from the owner, and then…
The agent would not answer our calls or emails. They must be entertaining a better offer.
I was extremely upset. We had been working on the deal for months and it was a failure. I could see it! It was going to be perfect!!!
And then I heard that voice. The one that I learned to listen to during hard times. It said: “Get up. Get in your truck and drive. There is something better out there for you.”
I followed my intuition and an hour later I was walking into Center 615. There absolutely was something better… MUCH BETTER!!!
I knew that day that I had found HOME, and that I had found a new freedom.
It’s the freedom to have faith in the process and understand that failure is an illusion. It’s simply a lesson for us to learn; a test along the way.
When you no longer fear failure you have the freedom to:
Aspire to live your greatest life.
Believe you can make a positive impact on the lives of others.
Keep showing up.